How do you deal with a Marriage where there is no Love? No communication but there is empathy and commitment.
Especially when you can’t have a conversation or agree to do something together as a couple?
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The short answer is, leave.
The things you have described are critical issues.
Note though, marriage is choice … one to accept the other person regardless of the situation, indefinitely. That is the conventional model. However, say the other person tries to kill you, it would not make sense to stay in such a relationship for the sake of social labels.
In my opinion, and experience, marriage is not for everyone. In fact, it is for the minority in the same way we can’t all be doctors, artists, engineers, priests, etc. These things, like marriage, are vocations and are CHOSEN. Now, marriage (sadly) is presumed to be the default avenue for any human being to follow. That’s why there are many divorces and dysfunctional relationships in the world. Many people who are married actually regret it but can’t say it.
Capitalize on the “empathy and commitment “. There is hope to rekindle the love in this case. Spend time doing things together, things both parties like or things only one party likes but the other one is willing to give it a go. Dress up. Look and feel good. Go out on a walk, watch the sun set together, look into each other’s eyes, like deep, smile to one another, hold hands, compliment each other, express gratitude to the partner for trying or achieving something, leave random hand written notes for whatever or no reason at all, just love them….
Love has never been the glue to any relationship. Commitment is key. Love always fades away and that’s when you need to fall back to the things you like about that person. Love alone can not hold together any relationship: DO you have things in common, hobbies? Business? Children? These are more to relationships than feelings and emotions. We can not always depend on that.
Marriage without love is like a car without fuel. You are not going anywhere with them so just stop if possible and look for solutions or try to fixx the problem first.
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Great blog
ReplyDeleteThank you Tanya!! Appreciated :-)
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